7. I Don’t Need to Be Right. I Need to Be Aligned.
There’s a part of me that used to be obsessed with being right.
Not out loud. Not to win arguments.
Just quietly, internally—this deep need to know I had read it right, felt it correctly, chosen well.
Because being wrong felt dangerous.
Being wrong meant I couldn't trust myself.
And if I couldn’t trust myself… then what could I trust?
That kind of pressure turns intuition into a performance.
It stops being about feeling what’s real, and starts being about getting it right.
And that’s where we lose ourselves.
It took me years to realize:
The goal isn’t to be right.
The goal is to be in alignment.
And those aren’t the same thing.
You can be “right” about a situation and still be out of sync with your values.
You can be “wrong” about the facts and still be following your deeper knowing.
You can walk away from something that looks fine on paper—but feels heavy in your chest—and never regret it.
Alignment doesn’t care about looking smart.
It cares about feeling whole.
When I finally let go of being right, something strange happened.
I felt lighter.
Because now I could feel without the pressure to justify it.
I could listen to my gut without needing proof.
I could make a decision that no one else understood—and not need them to.
I stopped trying to calculate every outcome and started asking different questions:
Does this feel like truth or fear?
Is this decision aligned with who I’m becoming?
Will I respect myself after I act on this?
Suddenly, I wasn’t measuring success by how accurate I was.
I was measuring it by how honest I was being with myself.
It made me free.
Free to follow a path even if it didn’t make perfect sense.
Free to take a step forward without knowing the destination.
Free to admit when something wasn’t working—without making it mean I failed.
And that’s the beauty of alignment:
It leaves room for learning.
It’s not rigid. It breathes with you.
It moves as you move.
It evolves as you evolve.
And once you start living this way, you stop needing guarantees.
You stop needing a scoreboard.
You stop looking for certainty in all the wrong places.
Because you have something better.
You have peace.
Letting go of being right also taught me how to listen better.
When you’re always trying to be right, you hear with defense.
You listen for openings to prove your point.
You brace for being wrong.
But when you’re in alignment, you listen with curiosity.
You don’t need to win.
You just want to understand.
You want to stay connected—to yourself, to others, to what’s real underneath the words.
That kind of listening is intuitive.
It’s patient.
It’s powerful.
And it starts by choosing alignment over ego.
There’s a different kind of wisdom that shows up when you’re no longer trying to be the smartest voice in the room.
You become a presence instead of a point of debate.
You become someone people feel safe being real around.
Because you're not here to compete—you’re here to feel.
And in a world obsessed with being right, there’s something radical about choosing to be aligned instead.
So if you’ve been wrestling with a decision...
If you’re scared of being wrong again...
If you’ve been hesitating because you want to get it perfect this time…
Try this instead:
Stop asking, “Is this right?”
And ask, “Does this feel aligned?”
Check your breath.
Check your shoulders.
Check your tone when you talk about it.
Your body knows.
And when you learn to trust that—really trust it—you stop needing to prove anything.
You just live what feels true.
And that… is enough.
And if you hear something stir—something simple, something soft...
Don’t dismiss it.
That’s where it starts.
That’s where it always starts.
Derek Wolf
If something in this spoke to you, there’s more waiting.
I write, interact, and teach more deeply over at www.L2Bintuitive.com—where we explore how to actually live what you feel.
There’s a part of me that used to be obsessed with being right.
Not out loud. Not to win arguments.
Just quietly, internally—this deep need to know I had read it right, felt it correctly, chosen well.
Because being wrong felt dangerous.
Being wrong meant I couldn't trust myself.
And if I couldn’t trust myself… then what could I trust?
That kind of pressure turns intuition into a performance.
It stops being about feeling what’s real, and starts being about getting it right.
And that’s where we lose ourselves.
It took me years to realize:
The goal isn’t to be right.
The goal is to be in alignment.
And those aren’t the same thing.
You can be “right” about a situation and still be out of sync with your values.
You can be “wrong” about the facts and still be following your deeper knowing.
You can walk away from something that looks fine on paper—but feels heavy in your chest—and never regret it.
Alignment doesn’t care about looking smart.
It cares about feeling whole.
When I finally let go of being right, something strange happened.
I felt lighter.
Because now I could feel without the pressure to justify it.
I could listen to my gut without needing proof.
I could make a decision that no one else understood—and not need them to.
I stopped trying to calculate every outcome and started asking different questions:
Does this feel like truth or fear?
Is this decision aligned with who I’m becoming?
Will I respect myself after I act on this?
Suddenly, I wasn’t measuring success by how accurate I was.
I was measuring it by how honest I was being with myself.
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This shift didn’t make me careless.It made me free.
Free to follow a path even if it didn’t make perfect sense.
Free to take a step forward without knowing the destination.
Free to admit when something wasn’t working—without making it mean I failed.
And that’s the beauty of alignment:
It leaves room for learning.
It’s not rigid. It breathes with you.
It moves as you move.
It evolves as you evolve.
And once you start living this way, you stop needing guarantees.
You stop needing a scoreboard.
You stop looking for certainty in all the wrong places.
Because you have something better.
You have peace.
Letting go of being right also taught me how to listen better.
When you’re always trying to be right, you hear with defense.
You listen for openings to prove your point.
You brace for being wrong.
But when you’re in alignment, you listen with curiosity.
You don’t need to win.
You just want to understand.
You want to stay connected—to yourself, to others, to what’s real underneath the words.
That kind of listening is intuitive.
It’s patient.
It’s powerful.
And it starts by choosing alignment over ego.
There’s a different kind of wisdom that shows up when you’re no longer trying to be the smartest voice in the room.
You become a presence instead of a point of debate.
You become someone people feel safe being real around.
Because you're not here to compete—you’re here to feel.
And in a world obsessed with being right, there’s something radical about choosing to be aligned instead.
So if you’ve been wrestling with a decision...
If you’re scared of being wrong again...
If you’ve been hesitating because you want to get it perfect this time…
Try this instead:
Stop asking, “Is this right?”
And ask, “Does this feel aligned?”
Check your breath.
Check your shoulders.
Check your tone when you talk about it.
Your body knows.
And when you learn to trust that—really trust it—you stop needing to prove anything.
You just live what feels true.
And that… is enough.
And if you hear something stir—something simple, something soft...
Don’t dismiss it.
That’s where it starts.
That’s where it always starts.
Derek Wolf
If something in this spoke to you, there’s more waiting.
I write, interact, and teach more deeply over at www.L2Bintuitive.com—where we explore how to actually live what you feel.
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